Home
Whole Mind Healing

Whole Mind Healing

A Simple Path for Changing Your Life by
Healing Your Mind

Michael R. Kandle, Psy.D.

Contents

  • Introduction 3
  • Part I: The Principles of Healing
  • Chapter 1: Healing: The Art of Managing Conflict8
  • Chapter 2: Reprogramming Your Mind for Healing and Peace12
  • Chapter 3: The Five Pillars of Healing and Peace15
  • Chapter 4: Belief17
  • Chapter 5: Intention20
  • Chapter 6: Thinking23
  • Chapter 7: Feelings29
  • Chapter 8: Behavior32
  • Chapter 9: The Relationship Between Inner and
    Outer Healing and Peace
    42
  • Part II: A Model of the Mind
  • Chapter 10: Who Do You Think You Are?46
  • Chapter 11: A Cast of Characters52
  • Chapter 12: Classic Conflicts67
  • Chapter 13: The Shadow of Shame77
  • Chapter 14: Shady Characters80
  • Part III: The Process of Healing and Creating Peace
  • Chapter 15: The Destruction and Restoration of wholeness96
  • Chapter 16: The Dangers of Judgment91
  • Chapter 17: Shame: Purge or Project97
  • Chapter 18: Integrating the Sacred and the Profane100
  • Part IV: Programming Peace Into the Subconscious
  • Chapter 19: From Understanding to Realization106
  • Chapter 20: The Socratic Method110
  • Chapter 21: The Capacchione Method112
  • Chapter 22: Peace Talks116
  • Chapter 23: Meet and Greet Your Subselves131
  • Chapter 24: New Leadership158
  • Chapter 25: How to Heal and Create Peace Within168
  • Chapter 26: Closing Thoughts and Hopes178
  • Appendix A: Important Precautions181
  • Appendix B: How and Why Two-Handed Writing Works183
  • Appendix C: Biochemistry188

Introduction

Whole Mind Healing is a book that will teach you how to heal your whole mind. You’ll be surprised to discover how much easier this is to do than you might think, and how it’s entirely possible to do by yourself. To do so, you’ll need to learn about the processes of healing as well as the nature of your mind. What most people don’t understand about their mind is that it is not a single entity, but rather is made up of multiple​ sub-selves​, and only by understanding the nature of these sub-selves can a person heal their whole mind.

The word​ whole in the title of this book has two integral meanings. The first refers to the ​entirety of all the mind’s individual parts, and the second refers to the ​wholeness of the mind, a condition reflecting how well the individual parts are integrated through their relationships with one another. In many ways, a mind is identical in nature to that of a family. Both are made up of three dimensions;the ​individuals(parts), the ​whole(collective), and the relationships between their parts.Together, the status of these dimensions determines how healthy a mind or family will be. In a mind or a family, healthy functioning is determined by the health of each individual part and the health of the relationships between the mall. Because of this, healing is often required on both individual and relationship dimensions.

Why might a mind need to be healed in the first place? Most often this is because of how various painful or traumatic experiences create scars, divisions, and conflicts in it. Returning to the family analogy, if an emotionally unhealthy parent abuses a child, this typically causes damage to that child as well as damage to both the parent/child and spousal relationships in the family. For such a family to become whole and healthy again, individual healing would likely be necessary for the child, the unhealthy parent, and all the family relationships harmed by the abuse. A mind becomes wounded and whole again in the same way.

Most people don’t think of their minds as consisting of separate and unique parts, nor that there can be multiple conflicts between them. Once you learn about the different sub selves in your mind and how to access them, you will come to understand their different natures, their conflicts, and learn how they need to be healed.

Conflicts between sub selves result in a loss of internal connections-connections necessary for the mind to be whole rather than divided. The more the mind is divided, the more one’s health becomes afflicted by anxiety, depression, anger, guilt, shame and/or despair. Conflicted minds are also associated with parallel conflicts in relationships with others. This is because there is a direct correlation between how different sub selves relate internally and how they relate to the corresponding sub selves in others. Healing inner conflicts also helps manage outer conflicts. In other words, by learning to heal your mind, you will also learn how to create heal their relationships with others.

The secret to both inner and outer healing can actually be discovered in a deeper understanding of the “Golden Rule”. The Golden Rule is the most universal principle found in virtually every major religion and society, both around the world and across the span of history. The language of the Golden Rule varies only slightly between different religious and secular traditions, but the fundamental wisdom is the same – that we must understand and treat others the way we would like others to understand and treat ourselves. Though this may sound simple on the surface, there is more wisdom in this tenet than most people realize. This is​ not a book about religious principles or spiritual healing, but instead about the ​process of healing with the love and compassion represented in the Golden Rule.

There is nothing magic or mysterious about the healing process. Virtually everyone can learn how to do it. Though healing most often occurs in a therapeutic or other compassionate relationship, it can also be done by oneself. Either way, the healing process is a​ relational​ one.

This means that healing occurs through the interactions of a compassionate relationship. With respect to healing the mind, it is the relationships between sub selves where healing takes place. That means replacing their toxic beliefs and conflicted interactions with better understandings and collaborative partnerships.​ Whole Mind Healing will teach you exactly how this is accomplished.

In the chapters that follow, you will be introduced to some concepts that may or may not be familiar to you. These include a map of the mind’s different domains, the process for healing the relationships between them, and a simple, effective technique for​ applying the healing process wherever wounds require healing. Though these concepts may be unfamiliar, there is very little contained in ​Whole Mind Healing that is new or unconventional. Everything presented here has roots in the traditions of mainstream psychology, philosophy, and ancient wisdom. The first part of ​Whole Mind Healing introduces the principles of the healing process, the second part provides a map of the mind, and the third part focuses on the experience of applying the principles of healing to the mind. It is written in a way that teaches reader show to heal their minds independently, though these lessons can also be adopted into an existing therapeutic relationship. The more choices we have in life, the better. There is no“one size fits all” path to healing.

Throughout​ Whole Mind Healing, the terms​ healing, creating peace,​ and conflict management,​ are used interchangeably because these functions rely on the same process, though with slightly different aims. Not all internal or external relationship scan fully heal, yet there is still the potential for increasing peace and/or reducing conflicts within yourself and with others. Whole Mind Healing also places emphasis on the importance of personal safety. If deep and delicate sensitivities are encountered, guidance will be offered for how to maintain emotional safety and draw on outside support when necessary. Healing is most necessary in those places where people are most vulnerable, so healing must take place in safe conditions. I hope you will find this path easy to understand and to experience. If so,​ Whole Mind Healing ​will have to fulfilled its purpose.